Its Finally time to give up the "Good to All" Attitude!

Okay so its yet another Friday an we're back with a new post.
Currently there are a lot of things happening around us that continue to influence our thought process, because of which this blog post is something that many could find dragging, but believe us, take time to read it and we're sure a good number of you can connect to it.

The title gives you a very good insight as to what we're going to write about, so no cookies for guessing that.

Lets get to the point, You've been a complete sweetheart right from the beginning, helping everybody out, being your politest self, doing things you know others are going to like, without cribbing about people not appreciating your efforts. Why ? Because these aren't really efforts, you have this quality of pleasing everyone. You receive immense amount of happiness out of it.
You're very well comfortable with it selflessly doing things, but there comes a point when people start taking things for granted, that somewhat makes you upset, but you decide to ignore it because your nature doesn't let you come out of this "Goody-Goody" mode.
Now it's been a very long time, and it starts to get worse, and you are frustrated as hell, but you still do nothing about it.
Like seriously at this point of time everybody else can be complete bitches but you cannot rather will not do anything about it, because people expect you not to, and you have this insane desire to live up to EVERYBODY'S expectations.

This habit of yours, you're going to regret it very soon. This needs to go away. It's time you understand who to care for.

People who are obsessed with being genuinely sweet to anybody and everybody need to understand that this is going to fetch them more pain than good. It's a mean world out there mate, you'll meet people who'll exploit you and walk away. People are going to be sweet to you to get your work done. Do not mistake all that sweet talk with friendship vows.
We do not say everybody you come across is going to take advantage and leave you but, 8 out of 10 people are going to turn out as emotional threats.
Learn to judge the difference between people who mingle with you because of ulterior motives and people who actually appreciate you and care for you.

This thing that you have in yourself, your habit, it's divine.
But learn to direct it in a way that doesn't leave you feeling like trash.

Being somebody who's been through this phase, our advice to you is to realize that it's great to be polite to people but at some point you have to decide who all are worth your politeness.
This in no way means you start being mean to others, but channelize your sweetness towards those who deserve it. ;)


With that, this is the soul sisters signing off! :)
Keep helping, be sweet, but don't let others treat you like shit.
New posts, after we get over with Exams. ._. (Fridays obviously.)
Keep reading, Keep smiling.! :)

Learn The Difference Between Losing Your Heart & Losing YOURSELF !

“Never chase anyone, a person who appreciates you will always walk beside you."

We've come across so many people who completely change themselves to fit in the criteria for their girlfriends/boyfriends. They don’t leave a single figment of their older self after they get into a relationship.

 Not doing a few things that your partner dislikes & completely discarding your old habits are two different stories altogether. Losing your self respect is not a way to show your love for your partner.

 For example we see guys carrying their girlfriends’ hand bags. Look if she’s brought it, she probably can carry it herself too. You are her boyfriend, not her coolie for heaven’s sake!
This is where your male ego should actually be hurt, instead of all the wrong situations which require your sensitivity.
My guy would/should never honor such stupid wishes, and I know for a fact, that I will not even expect him to do so.
And for girls who dress according to their boyfriend’s wishes or isolate themselves from their friend circle because the guy doesn't approve of the company, are you serious? He is your boyfriend not your daddy. Why should you stop wearing things you like or start wearing things you dislike?

The society was enough to raise eyebrows at your attire; your boyfriend doesn't have to be one of them too. And let’s just not look at one side of the story, the same goes for girls who aren't comfortable in bold clothes but start wearing them because their boyfriends insist upon it.

And yes, Friends, how on earth can you forget your friends who've hung around no matter how messed up you were, for a short lived relationship. As a matter of fact, even if you think you've found your soul mate, that’s absolutely no justification for leaving your friends.

And it’s not only girls, it applies equally to guys. It is criminal to wash out all the time you spent with your guy friends just because your girlfriend thinks they are childish and immature. She may not tag along if she has a problem with them, but don’t let her hijack the time you spend chilling with your buddies.

The whole idea of a relationship is that being with the other person makes you feel happy and complete. It’s gone way too wrong if the whole time just one of the two is doing all they can to please the other person.

Someone should not get into a relationship with you, with a motive to turn your personality upside down. The one who accepts & loves you for all your imperfections and habits, is the one who truly deserves you.

We understand that everybody has a faint image of what and how his/her partner should be like and there are some favorable traits and things which are a big NO, but imposing them on your current partner is not the way to go about it.

You should be with somebody who makes you fall in love with yourself rather than somebody who you are constantly trying to impress.

If you can relate to any of the above things and you’re happy about it, absolutely fine.
But if it makes you unhappy for the slightest, then it’s time to pack your bags and run out of this relationship.

So our advice is to go out, chill with your friends (don’t completely forget your BF/GF), spend some alone time and discover yourself all over again!

This is the soul sisters (Love Gurus:P) signing off.

Keep reading. Keep smiling. :)

Happiness comes in small packages! :)

Everybody out there is trying to find the key to happiness, whereas it lies within us. Positive thinking is what helps in developing a positive outlook towards life. If your mindset itself is depressed & gloomy then reading self help books, motivational quotes or anything else for that matter is not going to help.
Turning into saints is never going to be a solution for removing negativity from your wretched life.
Just like this post is not going to help if this goes on like this, its turning out to be completely different from what we'd imagined it to be. It is supposed to be about those blissful little moments that give you a feeling of fulfillment, but often go unnoticed.
So sticking to that, we're not going to treat you to anymore bullshit about positive thinking and all that jazz.
Our mantra is to find happiness in small triumphs in our monotonous & nothing-more-than average lives. Lets just make it clear, Happiness won't come and find you, you have to go look for it and embrace it. And you're going to find it in those small little things you don't put much weight on or tend to take for granted.
Like somebody who's not a very close acquaintance to you, does something polite for you. Now doesn't THAT bring a smile to your face ? :)
Or for instance something that makes the both of us really happy, is being the reason of happiness for someone we really admire. The joy you get out of looking at their smiling face and knowing that you're the reason behind it is incomparable. O:)
Imagine that feeling you get while having those long deep conversations with someone you connect very well to.
Or looking at old pictures and reliving those frozen moments, having those silent long strolls with someone who means a lot to you, having those nostalgic insane laughs, sitting with someone you've known for the better part of your life and recollecting all the bitter and sweet memories you share with them.
That "someone" being anyone from your parents to your better half.
 You're smiling, aren't you? :D
That's exactly the point, things like these that make you forget other things and fill you with immense happiness, these deserve much more importance.

Something that EVERYBODY can relate to is that aroma of wet earth when the first raindrops touch the ground or cuddling with that soft toy that's been your best friend when you had nobody to talk to & needed somebody to cry your eyes out with. Amazing isn't it?
And that feeling when you're sorting your stuff out (Now I know that's VERY rare, but it does happen :P ) and you find your old little creations or notebooks scribbled with all those FLAMES and hearts with the names of those stupid little crushes & numerous games of cross and knots, played when the lecture got boring. Priceless. :')

So the bottom line is that these are the simplest of things that make those lips curve into a beautiful smile and those eyes twinkle with joy.
And that's what makes us the happiest, making a difference to anybody reading this, however small or big it may be. :)

You just need to shift your focus on the brighter side of life and then there's nothing that can stop you from being happy and content.

Write in to us telling us about things that make you happy.
This is the soul sisters(recently turned into spiritual gurus :P) signing off!
New post every Friday! :)
Keep reading, keep smiling! :)

Good English Is The New Sexy ! (Who am I kidding, it was always classy! ;))

Avni: Poor English is like THE biggest put off !!

Tanvi: Exactly ! I would judge a person, grammar being the first parameter.
I’d be like 'you know how to use tenses; you have a good command over English?  Jackpot! I already love the half of you.'

Avni: That is SO true… One of my worst nightmares is somebody approaching me & saying “I am love you too much.”

Okay so we were going through Reader’s Digest the other day and came across this amazing article about common mistakes people tend to make while speaking English & some of the most irritating errors.

And it got us into this conversation and hence this new post! :D

We are going to start with the most annoying and basic errors that people make.

What tops the list is the use of ‘THE’ after every possible word midst a sentence.
People be like “We went to see the Susy at the club the yesterday.”

Like how difficult is it to understand the use of ‘The’??? :O

The next thing that could be entitled as most irritating is, confusing ‘than’ with ‘then’.
How?! How do people even manage to get confused between the two?
‘Then’ is used for time dimension whereas ‘than’ is used for comparison.

Also there’s a HUGE difference between ‘you’re’ & ‘your’.

The next most bugging error that people make is using ‘did’ with past tense.

For example, “Why didn't you met me yesterday ?”

Well for starters get your grammar right, and then maybe I’ll think about meeting you mister.
‘Did’ & past tense are like the nerds and fun of English. You just can’t have the two of them together.

What comes next is the use of words with the same meaning TOGETHER in a sentence.

It is such a ‘Blunder Mistake’ you know ! ;P

Now, something that irritates me to no extent is the excessive use of ‘Actually’, ‘Basically’ & ‘As in’ anywhere and everywhere in a sentence.

“Basically it’s like very annoying, as in really very annoying.”
You see ?  -_-

Some people really need to go back to school & learn the basics because ‘hairs’ & ‘putted/cutted’ do not belong to the English dictionary.
The plural of hair is hair & the past tense of put/cut is put/cut. High time people learn this!

Speak Hindi if you aren't fluent in English, that’s perfectly fine. But don’t murder people with statements like “She’s in his backside.” When you actually mean “She’s behind him.”.

The point here is not to glorify people with impeccable English or show down the one’s who aren't fluent in the language. These days, it has become more of a prestige issue for people to use English in their daily life, but the focus should be on using the language correctly, and by language we mean ANY language on the face of earth.

We personally feel good command over English or having knowledge as to what is the correct way to use it, portrays confidence. Good English is flattering, trust us. *wink*

There are many such errors that make us cringe, but that’s all for now. Maybe we’d have a second part to this post someday.

Do tell us your experiences with stupid grammatical errors in the comments section below.

This is the Soul Sisters (Grammar Nazis ;D ) signing off.

New posts every Friday.

 Keep Reading. Keep Smiling. :)

The First Step

Soul Sisters is an idea which is the result of our knack of writing.
"Because this 'likhne ka keeda' needs more food than mere diary entries and gossips", had been our first explanation to it.
It is basically our alter ego. "Our" being two 12th standard girls trying to escape all the pressure and spread quirky smiles by means of this blog, chiseling our writing skills.

Just like the logo, quirky, creative, original, twisted, ambiguous, naughty & innocent at the same time, are, our souls.
We'd be writing stuff about issues related  to "Rozmarra ki Zindagi" :P our own rants and anything and everything you find interesting. By that we obviously mean anything WE think you'd find interesting.
Juss Kidding! :D
And we do not intend to generalize or target any particular group of people, its just our views and experiences.
You like it, can relate to it, Great. (y)
You don't, well, we didn't mean to offend you by any means.
With that, this is the Sisters signing off!
Hope you enjoy reading our future blogs. :)