No Prim & Proper Attitude for Girls Anymore!

This is for the first time that we are posting about something about an issue that is close to our heart and it was very difficult to not get overcome by the strong emotions and frustration we mutually have towards what we are going to write.
This post is going to revolve majorly around women empowerment and the mindset people in this great country of ours have towards the same. So anybody who is fickle enough to not understand it should stop reading this right now.
There's not really a need to explain what triggered this, but there's one particular incident (post about the incident basically) that moved us to write this.
Most of the reader's are our friends and are aware of the page Haaaaaawwwwwwwwwwww(https://www.facebook.com/live.laugh.love.smile.enjoy) there's this post we'd like every one to read before moving any further. 

(https://m.facebook.com/story.php?story_fbid=859408264077176&id=235334899817852) 

Do we have an answer as to why girls in this country are ALWAYS taught to behave in a certain way? Why don't we tell them to stand up for themselves whenever need be?

We don't even know where to start. There are like millions of flaws in the upbringing most girls get.
We should not comment on what she did because we have no idea of her state of mind when she went through all of that and we haven't seen half the struggle.
But there are certain things we and our parents need to learn. How many such cases do we need, to understand and change our attitude?
When will we stop objectifying women? 

When will the people of this country stop treating their son(s) as superiors? 

Why is it so difficult to see your son respect his wife? Why can't we stand women gaining success?

It is beyond our understanding as to why did she keep on going through this hell for 11 long months.
There must be something she could've done. SOMETHING!

She was afraid they'd kill her? You think she would've survived all the hitting if that relative hadn't informed her parents?

We are taught not to raise voice against our elders, but did this situation not demand equal action? Was it not her right to protect herself by hook or crook? Was silence what she needed? NO! Did silence help her in any way, no, it didn't. What could have helped her situation was if her parents would have taught her to raise her voice and stand up for herself instead of teaching her the beautiful art of "adjusting" and keeping mum till everything turned into her favor.

And how did the parents not come to know about ANYTHING AT ALL? And what kind of parents don't get worried about their daughters without talking to her for months on an end ?
Ask people to curse western culture and you can have all the parents of this country participating.
But today we ask what is the difference in the upbringing of the two cultures?

The western people leave their children to build their lives by themselves once they're mature enough. Indian parents leave their daughters by themselves after getting them married. Is that what we're all about? Is that why we are brought into this world? To be married off ultimately?
That is the sad truth about the Indian society, and the patriarchal mindset which is so deeply embedded in not only the young minds of our sons but also our daughters, which is why shameful incidents like these are still happening in our country.
Everybody, I assure you, every single person in our country will enthusiastically jump into the debate about how India is unsafe for their daughters, but when it comes to teaching their sons to respect not only the women they are related to, but EVERY. SINGLE. WOMAN. Regardless of what she is wearing, regardless of the subtle "hints" you are getting from her, regardless of the fact "that she was asking for it".
There is something deeply wrong in the way our society works on a whole.And only we can amend it, not by going on strikes or marches, not by sharing pictures about women empowerment, but by practicing what we preach, by respecting our mothers, respecting our sisters,respecting women in the workplace, respecting the women you see on the street, by not treating women as secondary beings.
Remember, feminism is not about giving more importance to women, its about giving them equal rights and opportunities.

This is the Soul Sisters signing off.
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The Key To Successful Blogging!

Blogging is no rocket science and you can easily start off a blog at any of the available platforms. But here we are talking about the perfection aspect so we thought you might need some expert advice. *wink wink*

Follow these simple steps and you are ready!

• Decide what you really want to write about. Jot down certain no. of possible posts you can think of related to your choice.
• Decide a regular interval at which you are gonna write.

Well both these points might seem like the stepping stone for the blog but really these things only have secondary importance, because at the end of the day you are only gonna write about what & when it feels good to you.

• Moving on, think of a suitable title for the blog. This is THE most time consuming shit in the whole process. Spend a fair amount of time on this, because however many times you change it, you're pretty much gonna stick to your first choice.
• The next thing that we're gonna tell you is byfar the most important step. Draft your introductory post. This is where the 1st and the 2nd points play an important role. You have to make some false promises about the content and frequency of your posts. ( And then as we said earlier you can post about anything at any point of time)  

You may also add stuff about how you don't intend to target/ offend anybody and these are your own views and then you can continue doing that peacefully.

• After these basic things are done you can start blogging. Things will be okay for a month or so, but after that when you are not able to post too frequently, use phrases like "personal issues" "exam stress" "burden of studies/workplace". Never admit that you're a lazy ass & were procrastinating.
• Now comes the time when you finally sit down, finally in the mood to do something productive for the blog you started with such enthusiasm, like write a new post. Now if you write the blog alone, you are in luck , because when you'll be sitting there, just staring at your notebook, with the legendary I-don't have-a-clue-what-i-am-doing expression on your face, you can still fool people and say you are meditating. But my dear friends if you write your blog with somebody, somebody who's writing style you are comfortable with (Read;Best friends), and you have a topic in your heads and you discuss it, and you just have so many ideas and the moment you decide to put it on a paper, the series of "ummmm.." and "uhhmm.." and long silences start. 

And well now you know the secret to successful blogging and also why we don't post regularly!
Happy Blogging folks! We sincerely hope that you do NOT get inspired by this post and start your own blog and take away our bread and butter.

And this is the Soul Sisters signing off.

New posts every Friday! (YES! we promise to keep our promise this time)

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P.S.-Don't think the irony of the title OR this post is lost on us :P

The After Effect Of The Results. :|

I happened to sit with a saint this evening.
And I have been pondering over her words since then.
She said "Even if you become the Prime Minister of this country, your parents will tell you to try and become the Prime Minister of the States. Tum kar sab sakte ho beta, bas tumne soch rakha hai nahi karna.  And I say this based on my personal experience."
What furthermore forced me to think about this was what followed. Two hours back home and what do I hear "You did not pay heed when I asked you to study harder, you'll keep building castles in the air and ultimately achieve nothing and regret." All this after I've scored around 93% in Boards and cleared two competitive exams. How encouraging! :D
And this saint was nobody but our very own Avni Sehgal. xD
Such beautiful thought.
Much wow. :')

Well the definite question that arises here is, do these expectations end? Definitely not.
But do parents realize the effect on the psyche of a child upon whom these expectations are being imposed?
We know whatever parents say is for our well being, no questions and second thoughts about that. But is it not equally important to hear the other side too?
No matter where we go, what we become, there is always going to be something that Malhotra Uncle's kid did better than us(which by the way is our fault!), and so we will constantly be reminded of our incompetent spirit, all in the name of motivating us to do better in life!

Even if you are lucky and have somehow managed to get appreciation from your folks (doesn't happen by the way), it'll wear off sooner rather than later and there will be something else in the expectations store for you.
Okay,we agree, we wouldn't do half the stuff that we do if our Mata-Pita didn't pester us about it (Lazy Asses xP), but these otherwise lovely creatures really need to understand the point where it gets a little too much for us to handle. And its high time that parents realize the difference between motivation and extravagant expectations.

Lets just hope this little effort from our side does some good to somebody.

This is the Soul Sisters signing off!
NO new posts every Friday.
We post everytime we feel too guilty about abandoning the blog. ;_;

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An Open Letter To The "Cool" Brigade! -_-

We fail to understand the people who just cannot let go of the excitement about new things, and there is a special place in hell for people who do not seem to come out of the mentality of a 6^th grader. And by that we mean the kids who’ve just learnt and found the freedom to use cuss words. They swear and curse on EVERY fucking thing (pun intended :3 :P). The best part- these kids think it brings down their cool quotient if by any chance they forget to include a swear word in their sentence!

Ok ok, we agree, everybody has that phase when it’s all new; new to being an adolescent and it is completely normal to be drawn towards anything that makes us look and feel like an adult, things which make us look “cool” in front of our friends. There is an average period for which this fad could be dragged on and that can be anywhere between 2 months to 1 year at max, depending on one’s level of maturity. But if you are so much into cursing and swearing on everything in this world, then we’ll pray for you, my friend, coz you have serious shit going on up there!  -_-

It is perfectly fine to vent out your frustration through verbal abuses in the proximity of your friends (if you are lucky enough to identify the real ones! K), it is atleast way better than beating the shit out of the person who has done the heinous crime of offending you. And we are of the view that a 15 year old has enough sense to know when and where to use what kind of language.

Some girls have taken this mission of portraying themselves as “Bold” a little too far.
For example, this was an answer by a girl on Ask.fm...

Like seriously?

That is what a 9^th grader should be posting on a social networking site?

Something went fundamentally wrong with your education, Miss!

Just as we said before, it is ok to curse in order to express your aggression. There have been situations where we’d felt the need to relieve ourselves of the frustration by cursing, but we’ve always been vary of our surroundings and the company.

It is rightly said, that the first thing a stranger notices in you, is the way you’ve dressed.
But but but, it what’s the use if it all vanishes into thin air, the second you open your mouth?
Its like, the other person can see right in front of his eyes, your brought-up, the surroundings in which you’ve been raised, the kind of company you keep and more so, the kind of shallow personality you possess.

The only message we’ve tried to convey through this post is that, “cursing was not and will never be cool! “

And on that note, this is the Soul Sisters signing off!

New posts every Friday! ( LOL, just kidding! We post whenever the hell we feel a little less lazy :P)

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Well, School's Finally Over! :/

This is to you, Ramjas!

Honestly speaking, we'd not really been hit by the "Omg! School is ending!" fever.
We've seen/heard people crying over the fact that school is over, and we used to mock them.
Uptil our last exam we'd never imagined we'd miss this institution, that we loathed, so much.
And one fine day when our brothers were discussing going to school after the result was out, that is when it dawned upon us, that things are actually going to change a lot after the boards. We don't have to wake up every morning (which we're glad about, btw) and go to this place, where we've been going for the past 14 years. We're not going to meet the same set of people everyday.(Crying was still out of the scene :P but the thought sure was depressing)
That is when it really hit us, that this institution did mean a lot to us. It really has given us some of the best days and people. And it is WAY more than the stupid uniform.
We are so overwhelmed by emotion as we write this an going through a complete nostalgic trip right now.
It has given us so much to cherish, so much to remember, some beautiful, some bitter-sweet, some funny and some are well, just embarrassing, but it sure has give us a million memories.
Every single spot in the school has a vivid and unique memory or incident attached to it. This blog, for example, was planned in the school ground and written every Wednesdays/Thursdays in the mathematics periods (which surely would show, once the result is out. ;_;)
And more than the place it is the people that this place has given to us, that makes it SO special.
We've loved some, loathed some, even hated many, but every single person that we've ever shared a laugh with is an important and unforgettable part of our eventful school life.
It has taught us a lot of lessons, and lessons not only from the books that we've read, but important lessons about life, friendship, love and trust.
It is this school where we've learnt the true meaning of friendship, seen friendships fade, best-friends drifting apart, crushes, love, heartbreaks, cat-fights, gossips(seen and been been part of ;P) seen the pressure of scoring, the pressure of performing and this pressure having its effect on friendships and relationships.
And obviously there are some things that we'll miss more than the rest, which are mostly the things we've gotten habitual to in the past two years.
And two of the best things we've got in these two years are each other and this blog. :')

No matter how many times we've cursed our school, we still love it, and hell yeah we'll miss it, we'll miss it so fucking much!


This is the Soul Sisters signing off!
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Are You Still Looking For Your "Gentleman" ?

Hey Readers!

We’re back with a new post! Did you miss us? We know you did! :P

So here it goes.

 If you tag somebody as a “Gentleman” on the basis of his desire for intimacy without an intention of marriage, we have bad news for you. Stop reading; stop right here because what is going to follow is a complete bashing session of people like you. We have come across so many of the “Mai toh shaadi se pehle haath ni lagane dungi” types. Like what century are you exactly living in?

We hear girls say “ekdum gentleman-sa hoga mera boyfriend”, what do you even mean by that? How does his desire to get intimate make him any less of a gentleman? Please be kind enough to name the person who makes this definition of the ‘Gentleman’.  

And there are girls who have some entirely ridiculous parameters to call a guy a ‘Gentleman’. A guy who pays the bill at the end of a date might not be the ‘Gentleman’ you are so eager to find. Of course holding doors, chairs, carrying shopping bags is sweet & considerate. But all this may not necessarily mean your guy is a gentleman! And I could pretty much do all this on my own too.

Call a guy a Gentleman when he respects your opinion, tries his best to understand you and your situation, embraces your imperfections and flaws, and does not live with the motive of manipulating you and your individuality, and not because he agrees not to kiss you before marriage.

And we are in no way supporting guys or should we say assholes that try to push their girl too far and threaten to leave them if they do not allow them to get physical. We are not suggesting that you should rush into intimacy and physical relationships, but spare us the “shaadi” bullshit for heavens’ sake! Go ahead and judge him if he tries to force you into things against your own wishes.

All we are suggesting is let your relationship grow the way it is supposed to be, let it come to you naturally, move to the next level when you both are ready for it and most importantly are comfortable with it.

To all the guys reading the blog, thank us later!

And this is all for now, enough of the relationship advice!

This is the Soul Sisters signing off for now.

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We are back and we are really sorry... And also we're going to disappear again... yeah so we are back! :D

Just when you thought we were dead or something, here we are with an all new post. :D
So yes, we eloped for quite a considerable time and we owe an apology & explanation for that.
But isn't it obvious? Class 12? Preboards?
It really, REALLY sucks man. :/
Writing is like, the love of our lives and you have no idea how sorry we have been for abandoning the blog like this.
But since we are here again lets shift our focus to better and positive things.
First of all A Very Happy and Prosperous New Year to all our readers. :)
And as we said we're going to disappear yet again (boards aarrgghh! >_<) we're dedicating this last post to tips for the exam time and new year, resolutions you may call them, but resolutions are meant to be broken, and these are things we suggest you should really follow.
Go on, read on and enjoy :D

1. Even if I'm stressed/depressed at least I'm well dressed.
This one doesn't JUST preach the importance of looking good.
Okay it does, but just a tiny bit.
Doesn't it cheer your mood up if you're looking presentable/good?
Try it if you haven't yet. It does the trick.
The point here is not messing yourself up because of messed up emotions or a messed up situation you're stuck in. You really think looking like shit is going to help you after a break up or while you're busy studying? No my friend, it is only going to ruin things further.
Don't ever stop pampering yourself.
Never stop caring about yourself.
No matter how you feel. Get up, dress up, and never ever give up.
Yes but obviously don't waste the time you should be spending studying. :P

2. Stop freaking out on what others say! 
Yes just stop! Be it syllabus or anything else.
For instance, asking about others progress regarding exam preparations and then panicking or sometimes feeling good if you're ahead.
Most of them are lying, for what reasons is something beyond human understanding, and it is seriously NOT going to help you.
Or lets say telling the world about whats going on in your relationship and comparing. That's the worst thing you could do to yourself and your partner.
Share things with one or two of your close buddies and there too not every bit of it.
Communicate a bit more with your partner instead.
That's where you should be discussing about your relationship.
The gist of it is, start giving a little less thought to what others have to say and follow your own mind a bit more.

3. Confidence is the key!
Okay okay, we are not going to preach on and on about how self confidence is important.
Then maybe, yes we are going to do it just a bit.
Look,when we are made to face difficult situations in life ,situations which test our patience ,situations which are at times beyond our control, we lose our confidence, we stop believing in ourselves.
Even when people really close to us (mostly Parents) have full faith in us we ourselves start underestimating our capabilities.
If you don't believe in yourself, then nobody else will, trust us this is first hand experience we are offering you.
Always be confident, wear a smile no matter how wrecked up your life is, always keep your head up.
Worst case scenario, things will not turn out the way you'd like them to, you would come out of it all with all your dignity intact and probably a very important lesson learnt,a lesson only failures can teach you.

4. Life goes on.
Never cease to believe in yourself, don't ever give up on yourself, come what may.
This is basically the summary of all of the above.
Whatever it is that happens, whatever others say, you have somebody to look forward to/share things with or not, just remember that life goes on and don't ever forget the value of this life.
Surround yourself with positive people and things. Talk to somebody you can pour your heart to. Don't torture yourself with sad songs. Have loads of ice creams/ chocolates. Do whatever that makes you super happy and you're great to go.


We guess that's enough gyaan for now.
We hope this actually helps somebody.
See you in April now.
This is the Soul Sisters signing off!
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