Saturday 30 August 2014

No Prim & Proper Attitude for Girls Anymore!

This is for the first time that we are posting about something about an issue that is close to our heart and it was very difficult to not get overcome by the strong emotions and frustration we mutually have towards what we are going to write.
This post is going to revolve majorly around women empowerment and the mindset people in this great country of ours have towards the same. So anybody who is fickle enough to not understand it should stop reading this right now.
There's not really a need to explain what triggered this, but there's one particular incident (post about the incident basically) that moved us to write this.
Most of the reader's are our friends and are aware of the page Haaaaaawwwwwwwwwwww(https://www.facebook.com/live.laugh.love.smile.enjoy) there's this post we'd like every one to read before moving any further. 
(https://m.facebook.com/story.php?story_fbid=859408264077176&id=235334899817852) 
Do we have an answer as to why girls in this country are ALWAYS taught to behave in a certain way? Why don't we tell them to stand up for themselves whenever need be?
We don't even know where to start. There are like millions of flaws in the upbringing most girls get.
We should not comment on what she did because we have no idea of her state of mind when she went through all of that and we haven't seen half the struggle.
But there are certain things we and our parents need to learn. How many such cases do we need, to understand and change our attitude?
When will we stop objectifying women? 
When will the people of this country stop treating their son(s) as superiors? 
Why is it so difficult to see your son respect his wife? Why can't we stand women gaining success?

It is beyond our understanding as to why did she keep on going through this hell for 11 long months.
There must be something she could've done. SOMETHING!

She was afraid they'd kill her? You think she would've survived all the hitting if that relative hadn't informed her parents?

We are taught not to raise voice against our elders, but did this situation not demand equal action? Was it not her right to protect herself by hook or crook? Was silence what she needed? NO! Did silence help her in any way, no, it didn't. What could have helped her situation was if her parents would have taught her to raise her voice and stand up for herself instead of teaching her the beautiful art of "adjusting" and keeping mum till everything turned into her favor.

And how did the parents not come to know about ANYTHING AT ALL? And what kind of parents don't get worried about their daughters without talking to her for months on an end ?
Ask people to curse western culture and you can have all the parents of this country participating.
But today we ask what is the difference in the upbringing of the two cultures?
The western people leave their children to build their lives by themselves once they're mature enough. Indian parents leave their daughters by themselves after getting them married. Is that what we're all about? Is that why we are brought into this world? To be married off ultimately?
That is the sad truth about the Indian society, and the patriarchal mindset which is so deeply embedded in not only the young minds of our sons but also our daughters, which is why shameful incidents like these are still happening in our country.
Everybody, I assure you, every single person in our country will enthusiastically jump into the debate about how India is unsafe for their daughters, but when it comes to teaching their sons to respect not only the women they are related to, but EVERY. SINGLE. WOMAN. Regardless of what she is wearing, regardless of the subtle "hints" you are getting from her, regardless of the fact "that she was asking for it".
There is something deeply wrong in the way our society works on a whole.And only we can amend it, not by going on strikes or marches, not by sharing pictures about women empowerment, but by practicing what we preach, by respecting our mothers, respecting our sisters,respecting women in the workplace, respecting the women you see on the street, by not treating women as secondary beings.
Remember, feminism is not about giving more importance to women, its about giving them equal rights and opportunities.

This is the Soul Sisters signing off.
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